Sunnybrook Community Church
Sunnybrook Unscripted #93 - What Do I Do When My Kids Rebel? – 2024 Re-Release
Episode Notes:
~The overall goal of parenting is to bring up a biblically and morally responsible child.~
Despite popular opinion, the teenage years can actually be a joy. When you discipline, teach and coach, you can actually enjoy the teenage years.
You may feel like you’re losing your kids for a time while they are navigating more toward their peers, and finding their own identity but trust they will navigate back and be human again.
Teenage drama is normal.
Your family can either be interdependent or independent. Family identity and interdependence is a huge deterrents for teenage rebellion. Do your utmost to build a family identity in the early years.
Some examples:
• Have a family night sacred to your own family (you can have other nights when friends are allowed) • No TV’s in bedrooms – watch together as a family
• Commit to family vacations for your family only
• Camp together to establish family togetherness
• Establish an identity – “this is what the ________’s do”
• The more your kids feel they belong in your family, the less they will look for belonging outside of it • Make your home a haven for your kids
Remember that the teenage years are scary for teens as they navigate their emotions and changes of feelings. Be approachable in those times.
Social media gives your kids a constant intake of drama and chaos. Don’t be fearful of setting aside that influence for a time and bringing your family together.
Remember that you need others who can be a godly influence on your kids. Take advantage of bringing other godly people into their lives. Sunnybrook’s kids and student ministry are a great resource for that.
Discussion Questions:
1. Family identity and interdependence is a huge deterrents for teenage rebellion Based on what you heard in the podcast, what can you intentionally do now to build a strong family identity for your family?
2. If you have a teenager at home, what issues are most challenging for them right now? For you?
3. What can you do to be more approachable for your child?
4. Discuss together how you might encourage one another in parenting through challenging times.
Episode Notes:
~The overall goal of parenting is to bring up a biblically and morally responsible child.~
Despite popular opinion, the teenage years can actually be a joy. When you discipline, teach and coach, you can actually enjoy the teenage years.
You may feel like you’re losing your kids for a time while they are navigating more toward their peers, and finding their own identity but trust they will navigate back and be human again.
Teenage drama is normal.
Your family can either be interdependent or independent. Family identity and interdependence is a huge deterrents for teenage rebellion. Do your utmost to build a family identity in the early years.
Some examples:
• Have a family night sacred to your own family (you can have other nights when friends are allowed) • No TV’s in bedrooms – watch together as a family
• Commit to family vacations for your family only
• Camp together to establish family togetherness
• Establish an identity – “this is what the ________’s do”
• The more your kids feel they belong in your family, the less they will look for belonging outside of it • Make your home a haven for your kids
Remember that the teenage years are scary for teens as they navigate their emotions and changes of feelings. Be approachable in those times.
Social media gives your kids a constant intake of drama and chaos. Don’t be fearful of setting aside that influence for a time and bringing your family together.
Remember that you need others who can be a godly influence on your kids. Take advantage of bringing other godly people into their lives. Sunnybrook’s kids and student ministry are a great resource for that.
Discussion Questions:
1. Family identity and interdependence is a huge deterrents for teenage rebellion Based on what you heard in the podcast, what can you intentionally do now to build a strong family identity for your family?
2. If you have a teenager at home, what issues are most challenging for them right now? For you?
3. What can you do to be more approachable for your child?
4. Discuss together how you might encourage one another in parenting through challenging times.